Trust, Confidence and Approach.

It is tough to talk to girls and understand them when you don't know what you are doing. Once you begin to learn the right way to approach things you will feel like you are an expert. Believe me I was the same way I did not know how to speak to girls what to say or how to approach them. I found it easy to go online and try to talk to girls but that is as equally hard being that you need to build a whole lot more trust.

Trust, Confidence and Approach. Never forget these 3 terms because this is what you will need to master if you truly want to puck up girls.

What is the Real Secret to getting girls? Is there a specific way? Is there knowledge out there that most guys do not know about? Well first of all the answers our within yourself, you are the only one who can answer these questions but I will show you the way and guide you step by step how to get girls the easy way.

The real secret is how you perceive yourself and this makes everything else come together. Confidence is the key to getting girls plain and simple. Once you master this you have made a huge step towards your goal.

This does take practice and you must be ready to get rejected at times when approaching a girl. What you must focus on is your reaction to the rejection and how you handle it. You must not let it discouraged you and you must continue to practice and talk to girls is the only way to learn and get better at it. The more you do the more confident you will get about yourself and how you approach girls.

best way to do it is to give her signal

The best way to do it is to give her signals that you like her either using your friends or your body language so she does not see you as a friend.

Another thing you can do is try to talk to her as you would talk to anybody else, a lot of guys try to do things they normally would not do when they are talking to girls they like and this usually makes things harder for them.

Try to be funny and playful, this is one of the easiest ways to talk to any girl you have feelings for and this is because the more you are able to make her laugh the more she would be willing to talk to you and share things about herself. Girls like guys who make them laugh and if you can be funny and playful talking to her would be a lot easier.

So you know you have feelings for her and you don't know how to talk to her without feeling the pressure, this is one of the most difficult positions for any guy to be in. But the truth is that there are things you can do to be able to talk to girls you like and here are some of them.

The first thing you should do is to admit to yourself that you like her, a lot of guys try to deal with this problem by trying to deny that actually have feelings for the girl and this usually makes things harder for them.

Also never tell a girl you like her until you have gotten to know her well and she has become comfortable with you, this is the mistake a lot of guys make if you tell a girl you like her too early her defenses come up and it makes things harder for you.

Talk To A Woman

This can lead us into a conversation about the girl. And this is the real key in talking to girls and make the conversation about her. That isn't to say you should never talk about yourself, but when you keep the conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling that you're interested in her. Girls love to talk about themselves. So when you ask the right questions, and keep the conversation focusing her - who she is and what she likes and dislikes, you can keep any conversation moving in the right direction.

So how can you keep the conversation going from the beginning? The answer to this is pretty simple. First of all, understand that questions are the building blocks of conversations. Every question you ask a girl leads to a new and exciting part of the interaction. The problem is that most guys ask the wrong or inappropriate questions. They ask your typical boring questions like "what's your name?" "where do you live?" "what do you do for living?" etc...

Now, these are not bad questions - after all, you do need this information at some point but you can't rely on these kind of questions to keep an conversation going healthy! Instead, you have to ask fun, exciting, interesting questions that will actually engage the your audience, and make her want to keep talking to you. For example, instead of asking her what she does, ask something like..."Hey, do you work requires you to handle kids? I can tell that you are rather patience. I bet you love small animals too." In that example, we asked her a number of questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We asked her what her job was - but we took a guess that it had to do with kids. Whether we were right or not is irrelevant. Either way, she will let us know what she does. We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming out and saying it. We also asked her if she liked animals, without being obvious. This can lead to conversations about her pets, what kind of pets she wants, etc. Finally, we pointed out a "feeling" she gave us.

Enjoying Relationships

Have it in your mind that you want to break the ice with something funny. Let me to you this, every girl likes to laugh. I don't care who she is, she enjoys to crack a smile once in a blue. So your job is to go out and make her enjoy your company. Having some silly jokes that will lighten the mood is great. You can find stuff to laugh about by just looking around. Nowadays, everything seems to make me laugh. You just have to notice your surroundings and you will be amazed out of what funny things you will see that will help you break the ice.

Don't be afraid to go up to her and strait out tell her who you are. Why is this a powerful strategy? She will feel you oozing confidence right from the get go. Girls love men with confidence so you are already in good shape if you do this.

Always let a women know that you are a prize to have also. What I mean by this is don't always put yourself out there so aggressively. Try and play the held back game because most of the times this will make them want you more. The reason for this is because every other guy is trying to get in her pants, but not you! There is something different about you.

Don't you wish you just had those perfect pickup lines that work with all girls? I know I use to. It seems like most guys start to shake in their shoes when they get the chance to a pretty girl they are interested in. I am sure you can relate. Just understand that you are normal but also you can break out of this mind state.

A huge suggestion I will give you right now is not to listen to your friends when it comes to picking up girls. Why do I suggest this? Because simply your friends most likely have not been studying the "thoughts" of a women like I have so their tips will most likely be worthless.

If you find yourself not knowing what to say when you approach a women, it is mainly because you are lacking confidence. Without this, you will not get anywhere. Try to begin by building this daily and you will see what happens. Anyway here are some tips you can start using right away.

Women & Conversations

There are literally thousands of different ways that you can use to meet girls, for example: You can use your pickup technique in the park with your dog. Seduce the girls by asking for help. Try to find your feminine side so you can enter hers. You can seduce and pick her up at the grocery store. We don’t have enough time to go into all the techniques here, as more details will be explained in my book “How to Date Women WAY Out of Your League!” Let me ask you, now that you’ve got a hot girls sitting down with you for a cup of coffee, what are you going to say next?

Too Many Questions Being Asked: There’s nothing wrong with a few questions sprinkled into a good flowing conversation. However there is nothing worst than suffering that weird and always awkward embarrassing silence. Guys will ask question after question to avoid this painful experience, the silence. Attacking her with a ton of questions will eave a negative impression in her mind and shut her off instantly. Again, this shows that the guy is nervous and is not a skilled communicator at all.

I remember this guy that would say things to girls that would scare them to death! While talking with some other friends one day, his name came up and the girl had a less than favorable view about him. She said that he came on too strong and was way too aggressive. When I talked with this guy I noticed that he was easily annoyed, kind of like a chip on his shoulder. Girls talk about things like that and the negativity spreads like wildfire, and it’s no surprise that this man’s dating life came to an absolute stand still.

With the proper knowledge, nervousness can be overcome. Fear is a lack of knowing any better and with the right delivery method, strategies, you will be more confident. Learning the exact thing to say with the power of persuasiveness is extremely effective. Michelle, Natalie Martinez is her actual name, was very impressed with the guy’s interest in her. He used his power of persuasiveness, even while on the date she said she wanted to take things slow. Despite telling her that he was willing to take things slow as well, inside his mind he knew that she was going to be his.

Boring the Life Out of Her: Trying not to screw things up, guys will (sometimes not even knowing) talk about subjects such as the weather, their work or sports. He’ll kill her with these questions and next time she’ll avoid him completely.

Talking Too Much: Some guys out there keep on talking like there’s no tomorrow to attain a girl’s attention. This is common with guys who lack social experience and is an obvious sign of being nervous.

Imagine this scene: You are taking to a very beautiful sexy girl and she seems to like you. You can see that she’s having fun with the conversation and you can feel the sexual tension. You want to make something happen, but at the same time you don’t want to ruin something that you’ve just created. You don’t want to have her run off scared nor do you want to join the rejection club. To get the woman you have to giver a very good reason to meet on a date.

Now we’re going to take a look and see why we can have a lot of fun with this! When following up after (number exchange, coffee meeting, etc.) with a legitimate reason for doing so, you’re making the decision a super easy one for her. Perhaps you want to get together at this cozy place or you just want to chat about something fascinating. You extend the offer and make it seem enticing and a natural thing for the woman to tell you yes. If you use words like “so” and “because” you are simply backing up your suggestion to her. Shall we go over to the coffee shop, so we talk about your favorite band? Just smile as you say it and let it flow out naturally.

Laughter is the way into the soul (and into the bed). Now don't all of a sudden become a stand up comedian because, like always, too much of a good thing is bad. Simply say some things (within the context of the conversation) that will get her to chuckle at. Get her to laugh a few times throughout the night and you are well on your way to a successful pick up. Getting her to laugh does two things for you. 1. It makes her feel safe and unthreatened by you and 2. it shows her that you are someone fun who she can enjoy herself with.

Another common mistake that men make when learning how to talk with girls, is awkwardly dragging on a conversation that is going no where fast. If you ever get, even a hint of a diminishing conversation then it will serve you best to end it on the spot. You can either suddenly realize that its late and have to run, or simply excuse yourself to go talk to a friend or whatever. The important thing is to end the conversation quickly whenever you start to get any awkward vibes whatsoever.

When learning how to talk with girls, it is important to keep the above three things in mind at all times. However, there are a lot of other things that go into talking with girls, such as what to talk to her about and how to make the transition from talking to kissing to whatever.

Is your goal to simply get her number? Or is it to take her back to your place at the end of the night? By understanding your goals for the evening, you can more easily direct the conversation in that direction.

For example, if you want to take her back to your place, then you should attempt to direct the conversation towards something that would have her ending up at your place. You could start talking about the huge collection of band merchandise that you have and invite her over to "take a look" (if thats something she would be interested in, of course)

Just be creative about it and make sure that it is something that she would definitely be interested in.

Tips On How To Talk To Girls

This is the art of bringing the woman through an emotional rollercoaster, and thus making her associate herself emotionally with you. This is an advanced technique, but is deadly effective.

If you're able to make her laugh, you've already won half the war. The rule of thumb is this - you must be able to make her laugh within the first three minutes of conversation. When you crack the first joke and she laughs, then you're more or less sorted. Don't fret about having lots of 'canned' jokes - just make them sound natural (and befitting into the conversation) and you will do fine.

Guess what is the number one topic for virtually every human that walks on the face of the earth. THEMSELVES. Make the conversation 80% about her, and 20% about you (or less). This way, you will be able to find out more about herself, and also show her that you're deeply interested in her. These are the key components of deep rapport between a man and a woman.

Talk To A Woman With Style

1 The number #1 secret of talking to girls? LISTEN! Don't talk at all. :-) Let HER do all of the talking and just feed her fire to do it! I'm not telling you to be a big bore, rather - let her be the center stage star of the conversation and let her keep it interesting. If she's REALLY hot - laugh at all her jokes..:-) Even the dumb ones! (Especially the dumb ones) When the conversation is over....she'll give you her digits for sure, and wonder if SHE bored YOU rather than you having to wonder if you said or did the wrong thing. Besides....a woman who feels comfortable talking her rear end off to you..will feel comfortable a lot faster with a whole heck of a lot more!

2 You've got to master the art of curiosity. Women, as you know - LOVE to talk. Even the girls you don't think like to talk, do. Trust me, deep down - once you get to know her better, you'll discover she's as silly and talkative as the rest of us. So be curious. Ask a lot of good questions and she'll open up. And I don't mean questions like - "come here often" or " what's your phone number". :-) I mean, be genuinely and sincerely interested in what she has to say, and she will respond in kind.

3 You've got to master the art of self depreciation. What's this mean? Be able to laugh at yourself in conversation with her. Girls love a guy who can tease himself and doesn't take life so seriously. There are LOTS of guys out there who are good looking, have good jobs, etc - but who are just BORING as hell. Why? They take themselves WAY too seriously and sweat the small stuff. This may work for a while, and even get you a date or two up front, but down the road, trust me when I tell you - if you want to keep her interested - laugh and keep it light.

Attracting Women

Learning how to talk to girls to make them ask you out is easier than you might think. In fact, after you overcome the fear and nervousness that talking with girls brings, getting them interested in you is really easy if you know the right techniques. It's all about giving them the impression that you're of high value. Allow me to explain.

Every human interaction should be thought of as a negotiation. When a conversation between people takes place, there is a constant exchange of information and knowledge. In most cases, there is a dominant partner in the conversation. That is the person who is talking more substance, being more interesting, and generally providing the energy in the dialogue. This person is generally perceived as being the more confident, interesting, and valuable. This makes them attractive.

The problem with most men is that no matter how experienced or successful they are, they find it difficult to bring out their natural energy and passion in conversations with beautiful women. This is a normal thing. We don't want to look stupid, or say something wrong. What if we do something stupid and she loses interest in us? These thoughts are wrong, and detrimental to the overall attraction "game".

The key to how to talk to girls is to imagine them as just another person. Even better, imagine that she's unattractive and uninteresting. This will lessen your nerves, and you will be able to utilise your full potential. Talk about the things you like, allow her to respond, dictate the conversation. Pick up certain topics that she brings up, and talk about your experiences with those topics.

If you've proven your "value" by being relaxed, engaged, and confident, you will find that she won't want to leave the conversation. You might even find that she is the one getting nervous! This is perfect. Here is where you have to manipulate her into asking you out. Don't worry, you're not tricking her, you're just providing her with a perfect opportunity to ask you out.

When the time feels right, mention a bar or club. Say something like, "have you been to (insert name of bar here)?" She'll either say yes or no. Disregarding whether she says yes or no, your next line should be something like, "Yeah, I really want to go check it out actually." Hopefully, her next line will be something like, "yeah, you should really go see it". Here is where you have to be brave and say, "oh, are you asking me to go there with you?" Now, if she likes you she'll say yes straight away. If she doesn't she won't, and you need to move on to the next girl. Either way, practice makes perfect!

Date

Don't be too anxious and don't explain everything- You see some guys tend to call girls up and say hey it's me- "John remember?" You see these mere words will make her feel somewhat higher in comparison to you as you are trying to ask her whether she remembers you or not. Try to be calm and act normal instead of getting anxious and spoiling the whole deal.

Make it interesting but be short- The best possible way to really get a girl to carry on a conversation is to make her laugh within the very first 5 minutes of the conversation. You see if you can make her laugh than her interest levels in you would instantly double and she will be more attention but this is where you leave her begging for more. You see never talk to a girl too long and make sure you keep it real short to guarantee that she would be willing to talk to you again.

So now you have her phone number and thinking about calling her up but simply don't know what you would talk about? Well you see when it comes to talking on the phone it's a different ball game. May it be the first time you are calling her or may it be your tenth time. You see on the phone your conversation better be interesting as it wouldn't be long before she ends up saying good bye and hanging up on you. But there are some traits you must learn right now. If you master these than girls would love talking to you and being around you. Read on to discover what these are and how you can use them to your advantage...

Never call her too early- It you have just gotten her phone number than make sure never to call her up instantly after the day no matter how much your mind might push you towards it. Always and always wait about 2-4 days before calling her up.